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Sunday, March 28th, 2010

What an awful few days I have had with regard to this site.

All I had intended on doing was adding a new wordpress plugin and the entire site disappeared.  I have had no blog/site since last Thursday but thanks to my very patient husband Adam, he fixed it.

I have no energy to write anything. It has been a frustrating and horrible experience so instead I will leave you, for now, with this.

Have a good one.

It’s good to be back considering I thought I had lost the last 1 year of posts.

This is my 100th post, by the way.

Funny that.

Happy blogging.

Just for laughs, read this:

After it was marked and the girl brought it home  she returned to school the next day with the following note.

Dear Ms. Davis,

I want to make this very clear on my child’s illustration.  It is not of me on the dance pole on a stage as a stripper.

I work at B&Q ( UK version of Lowes or Home Depot ) and had commented to my daughter how much money we made in the aftermath of the recent snow/sleet.

This picture is of me selling a shovel.

Mrs Harrington.

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We need to be comfortable in our own skin

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

It’s so crazy ¬†that we women get so crazy about our weight.

I watched Sandra Bullock on Oprah yesterday. This was the After Oscars Party Special on the Oprah Winfrey Show. Sandra looked incredible in that gold dress. Her body looked fantastic. Oprah asked her what she had planned for the day now the Oscars were over. Sandra kind of said that after 3 months of hardly eating what she wanted to do was eat a large, juicy, burger.

I got on the scales this morning and shock and horror I am 4 lbs heavier than I am used to seeing. Where did these pounds come from? I was horrified. Well now let me just think about this for a moment. Last night I ate this delicious dessert called a hazelnut bomb. It’s basically a sticky, sweet chocolate cake with a single hazelnut on top. My husband and I share the small dessert by dividing it in half. I get this dessert at Fred Meyer and I before I even open my mouth to ask for it the woman behind the counter puts two in the dessert box and smiles sweetly at me. This is how often I buy it ( it’s every week practically ).

So how will I rid my body of these extra pounds? Well, I could reduce the amount of food I eat daily though I do not eat that much throughout the day. This evening we are having sausages and mashed potatoes with vegetables. What I’ll do is have a tiny amount of mash, sausage and lots of veg. I don’t drink alcohol during the week anymore and I hope to run tomorrow ¬†morning. I will get on the scales in a few days time and stop stressing about the damn 4 pounds and how many calories are in the dessert.

I don’t like to worry about weight and what the scales says but I do, I must admit. I just wished that more of us women would just feel good about ourselves and our different body sizes and be comfortable and happy with that. ¬†I know this is easier said than done.

When I go grocery shopping this week I think I will avoid the dessert section, for this week anyway.

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Sticking with the program

Monday, March 8th, 2010

I love the Oscars and I love film. I am so pleased that Kathryn Bigelow won the best director award for the Hurt Locker. I am looking forward to the day, and I hope it is soon, when we don’t have to mention the fact that it is a woman who wins recognition for doing exceptional work ¬†as if only men are capable of such feats.

Now it’s March and the days are lighter. I am thrilled about this. I love that at 6pm it is still light outdoors. I also love that I can get up early and run if I choose to though with both kids at daycare in the morning I now have the option of running at normal hours ¬†(8.30 or 9.00 am ) in the morning rather than the ¬†ridiculous time of 6.30 am. ¬†It has to be this time of the morning if I have lots of errands or chores to do. I need to be back by 7 ish to get the kids up and ready for daycare.

I am also thinking about myself more now. ¬†I am thinking about my future, goals and career. I am playing well not exactly playing yet but learning some chords on my guitar. I would like to practice more but right now I am just happy to have actually picked up the guitar and started working on it. I am reading more too. I just finished reading The Catcher in the Rye and loved it. I am trying and so far succeeding in actually keeping up with goals I set myself at the start of the year. I know it’s only March, just ¬†three months into my new regime, but it going well.

I wish that I could say the same for my blog. I barely have the time to write let alone read all the wonderful blogs that are out there. I am amazed by the amount of work we women do on a daily basis and then blog on top of that.

Anyway, I am hoping to write more regularly. I haven’t been doing this blog a year yet and it would be great to get to a full year of blogging. This will be in April.

I am going to end a bit on how I started with an Oscar sounding acceptance speech. I wanted to work in film. I studied film and photography. I wanted to edit film and then I wanted to be a Director of Photography.  I wish I had pursued it. Like anything you want in life no matter how ridiculous or huge or crazy it may seem or how small or silly it might be, to someone else, as long as you keep at it, keep going forward, it is possible to get there. Stick at it long enough and who knows what might happen.

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Career mom verses stay at home mom

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

I spoke to a friend today who used to live here in Portland but has moved to the East Coast. Megan left just over a year ago now. ¬†I miss her. It was nice catching up with her. ¬†She told me how hard she is finding it working full time, picking up kids from daycare, getting them home and into the bath, making dinner and then settling them down after milk and bedtime stories. Megan’s husband doesn’t return home from work until the kids are fast asleep. She is incredibly tired all the time. She has no time to look after herself. She doesn’t have the time to work out and exercise like she used to do when she lived in Portland.

Megan was speaking to me while making her daily hour commute, from work to their daycare, to pick up the kids.

As I stay at home mom, I often moan about this role. I ¬†am at the point now where I am thinking about working again. I am worried that if I should be so lucky to find a job that I will still have to be the one who picks up the kids from daycare, get them home and bathed as well as get dinner ready. I am not sure if I am up to splitting my time and my responsibilities. ¬†It’s a difficult one for me. I think because I have been a full time mom and didn’t give up work to go on maternity leave and then returned to work, I don’t feel the pressure at all like my friend Megan does to succeed in both her roles of career woman and mom of two kids.

Being a full time mom is ¬†a juggling act as it is and throwing a full time job into the mix scares me. I don’t think I could do both jobs well.

I miss working outside of the home. Before I had kids I had a great job. I came to USA from London and had happily given up my working life, at the time. I miss making my own money and being independent. I rely on my husband for money for the kids clothing and the food that we eat. It took a while to get used to asking for money to  buy things for myself and the children. It still feels weird for me.

I want a career too someday.

I don’t want to be stay at home mom forever. I see this role as a job where I am working full time.

Right now though after hearing my friends story I feel blessed that I got the time to spend with my babies who are 3 years old and 18 months old, in these  early years which have flown by so quickly.

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Keeping an eye on my alcohol intake

Monday, January 25th, 2010

I was noticing that I was drinking almost every week day. I would get this need for a drink after I had collected Leo from school, brought him home, bathed both he and Roma and then got the dinner ready. By the time I had done these tasks I was pretty run ragged with Leo on full steam ahead mode. Leo is so active, so excited, when he comes home from daycare. He is loud, wants to see his toys, wants to play with ALL of them and not listen to a word I say, no matter how many times I say it. So once I have done getting them both ready for dinner, I reach for the bottle of whatever is opened, and I am calmed.

I never liked the fact that I was working towards having a alcohol beverage to calm myself down.

When I first took note of this it started to bother me plus the fact that I kept hearing and seeing on TV the mothers who reached for the bottle because of the stresses of motherhood. It was worrying to me.

I decided to do something about it. I like having a glass or two of wine or a rum and coke so I wasn’t going to deprive myself completely. That was unrealistic for me. I decided to only drink at weekends. So far so good. I thought to myself, if I can’t do this then there is definitely a problem brewing that I need to address.

The first day, where I might have reached for the bottle, I thought I can do this and I did. By the third I must admit, that I just wanted to get to Friday but I did it. I have been testing myself for two weeks now and I am sticking to it.

As I type this, on Sunday evening, I have a glass of red wine with me. I may have another or not but tomorrow, Monday, no alcohol, not until Friday evening.

I’m doing it because I didn’t like my dependence on booze despite the disobedient, difficult, uncooperative ¬†children or the stressed, annoyed, irritated mother of two.

Happy stressed free week to all of you mothers.

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Time away from laptop

Tuesday, January 5th, 2010

It’s been more than 2 months since I last blogged.¬†

I’ve been busy getting on with life and just taking some time away from the laptop.¬†

I am at the point of my life where both children, 3 years old and 17 months, are both in daycare and I am beginning to think about me again. What do I want , where am I going, who do I want to be? I must admit, it has been bothering me a lot. Adam – husband- says I shouldn’t get stressed about it but sometimes I do.¬†

I haven’t worked in 4 years and I do not want a job, any old job, where I will be miserable. I would rather be at home if that is the case. I would love a career but sadly I haven’t a clue what it is that I want to be. I am frustrated and doubtful as well as open to the challenge and hopeful. I feel that the go getter that I used to be, the person who believed that I could be anything and do anything is disappearing. ¬†This makes me sad. ¬†I am afraid of waking up 5 years from now and being in exactly the same place that I am now.

Till next time.

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Every single day is busy. Big deal.

Thursday, October 22nd, 2009

I haven’t been blogging like I used to.

I’ve had one event right after the next to prepare for and so it has taken up my time.

The latest- my mum coming from the UK to visit.

I am excited. It will mean Adam and I getting out more, though I must say, last weekend was great. Adam and I went to a surprise birthday party and the following evening I went out to dinner with the ladies.

I am currently having to do a big chore everyday like clean under the mats all around the house or move the play mat and clean under those just so I can tick a job I have done off my list. I am getting through my list but it seems my blog has suffered, as a result. Never mind. I hope to get a new schedule soon where I will make time for my blog but right now it’s too crazy.

Hope to write again soon.

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Keeping this positive

Thursday, September 24th, 2009

My mother in law left yesterday. She has returned back to the UK after 2.5 weeks of staying here with us in the US.

I was nervous about having her here especially since my husband would be at work and my three year old would be at daycare, leaving me for most of the day to deal with her.

I want to write that the entire experience was a complete nightmare. We haven’t got on in the past. We have tolerated each other. I have kept my trap shut only venting to my husband when she was out of ear shot though this would mostly be at bedtime when I knew for certain she couldn’t possibly hear me but I cannot write that.

This time I had a strategy. I would try to stay positive. After all, she was here to get to know her grandkids more. She wasn’t here for me. Plus, with her being here Adam and I could go out more often. On the few days he did manage to take off from work, we could go window shopping and enjoy the last few days of Summer. It would be great. So I kept these thoughts in mind.

So how was it then? ¬†You know it wasn’t too bad. She helped with bathing the kids, making dinners, came up with different meals to feed the kids, made delicious desserts and a yummy soup which I have frozen for when the weather changes.

Adam and I giggled and laughed again while sipping cocktails at a bar downtown. We had fun. It was great.

Of course, there were times when she did annoy me with the things she said but I had heard these stories before. This was old news.

You know she actually told Adam that she thought that she and I got on better this time around. She said she got to know me a little bit more. Well about time. In the past it seemed to me that she had no real interest in me whatsoever.

I think alcohol had a tiny bit to do with this loosening up of my mother in law. We took her along to a wedding party and out for some dinners and she did seem more relaxed. This was a good thing for her and me too.

I’d speak to my mum and she would expect to get some negative feedback from me about Adam’s mum but I didn’t go there. ¬†I do have some but I turned it around and laughed. I will share them with you later.

I have a headache right now. I have had it for about 2 days now. I do feel a little run down. I am running the Portland marathon in 2 weeks time and I don’t feel great about it. I do feel good though about keeping my cool and being upbeat around ¬†Adam’s mum and not bugging Adam with my negative chatter about his mother. It is his mum at the end of the day.

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Just five minutes

Monday, September 14th, 2009

This is so hard and yet it is so funny too.

I cannot write. I am too nervous of getting caught, being found out.

My mother in law is staying with us and she doesn’t know I write a blog. I don’t want her to know.

It is almost impossible to write a post right now. She keeps coming over to where I am and peering over my shoulder to see what I am doing.

I think she may have seen something or at least me quickly closing down my blog site, when I saw her about to come over to me. It’s crazy and it’s funny too.

I cannot say anything right now except for the fact that she doesn’t approve of Roma’s ears being pierced and she isn’t keen on her name.

Oh my gosh, I must dash.

She’s coming. Lol.

Momstar, your comment made me Lol.

Bye for now…..

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Stay positive

Sunday, September 6th, 2009

I thought it best to write a cover, happy title for this blog, just in case my mother in law happens to see my twitter page open and happens to scan my last post title which read “Oh, no, the mother in law is coming.”

Momstar from Party Like a Momstar, in reply to your answer she is due tomorrow night. Thank goodness it is tomorrow night because this is one day less already. Sorry. I am attempting to stay positive, so here goes.

I will  be good. I will not complain at bedtime to my husband about all the comments, or looks, or parenting skills, techniques, etc, etc, etc that she may make to me, quietly, while my husband is out of sight or earshot.

I am happy she is coming- did I just think and write that? РBecause it means that Adam and I can go out to see a movie or out to dinner or wherever we like and not have to get back in time and pay our lovely babysitter. This is a blessing and we are so grateful that Leo and Roma will have another person, grandma, to hang out with them.  This is wonderful and a good thing.

Grandma is here for just 2 weeks and a few days. Surely I can do this and remain tight lipped throughout the ordeal. Sorry. Naughty thoughts just keep creeping in.

You know, when grandma has gone, I will feel a lot better about writing what is truly on my mind so until then I will write, or vent, when I can, if I can.

Grandma, does not know I write a blog entitled I do Not Like This Job. Can you imagine what she would say to the family back home in the UK.  No, she can never know.

Speak, write, when I can.

Momstar thanks for thinking about me. You are a shining, twinkling,  mom star, in my eyes.

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